When I was a kid, I have been one of the most obedient child in my house. But as the years passed on, I noticed a change in my attitude towards my parents. I started arguing on many things, I didn't like the thought where my parents had to do everything thinking about the society, we had no similar opinions etc. When I thought about it a lot, I understood that it is nothing but The Generation Gap wherein they had a different point of view and since we have seen a different lifestyle, we have a different point of view and so that is the major reason where children are moving away from their parents. This is also a result of increasing numbers of depression/suicide cases.
This generation has seen and lived a very different lifestyle as compared to their parents. Our parents had lived a life where things were limited, where the head of the family (their father or Grandfather's) used to be the decision maker in the family and no one can object their decision. But now our generation has some kind of expectations that whatever the decisions are, it should be mutual and with the consent of all the family members. This may not be the case with everyone.
There was a girl who was not allowed to go out and talk to people and was restricted to each and every small thing. And later on when I interacted with her, I came to know that she had developed a lot of desires which actually was not good for her. I understood the fact that, the more you restrict/limit someone, the more willingness they get to do that, which may or may not be good for that particular person. I have seen parents forcing their children to choose career of their choice that they could not do and want to fullfil their dreams through their own children. There are situations where a child is getting low marks and parents are punishing/scolding them on the same.
I think it is very important for parents to understand that now the time has changed and so does the trends, behaviours, fashions, liking, disliking, technology etc. Parents always start comparing our life with theirs but failed to understand that this is somewhere creating a gap between the both. Parents should start communicating with their children in a way where a child feels comfortable to discuss each and every small things with their parents without any hesitation. A child starts searching for a support outside when they do not get the same in their house. Once a parent understands this change in the lifestyle and starts accepting the same, I think then they will start creating a friendly bond with their children, and then a child do not have to look for someone outside to share things that he/she has been going through.
On the other side, it is also very important for a child to understand that we do not take advantage of the freedom that we are getting. Do not get indulge into things that affects our health/life. We need to understand what is good and what is bad for us. Sometimes it so happens that we question their experiences which actually turns out to be a good solution.
To sum up, it is very important to create a friendly bond between a parent and a child to avoid many misshappening arising due to these generation gap.
"THE MORE INTERACTION BETWEEN A PARENT AND A CHILD, THE MORE UNDERSTANDING AND HAPPINESS BETWEEN THE TWO AND THE LESS CHANCES OF A GAP IN A FAMILY"
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